More Success! Ok, admittedly this is a rather mundane example, but it does demonstrate progress, I think. I was coming home last night from work and pulled up to a four-way stop. The car on my right had the right of way so I allowed him to go. Then, before I had a chance to make my left turn, the next car on my right (who obviously did not have the right of way) pulled ahead of me (and nearly hit me). I slammed on my brakes and hit the horn. The driver, instead of yielding continued straight ahead, and what's more, to make matters worse, stared at me with a look of total brazeness.

In the past, this kind of incident would have really gotten under my skin and I would have hurled a mouthful of curses at the person and would have taken quite a while to calm down. Last night, something different happened. Initially, I did feel myself getting worked up and started to curse the other driver. Then, I caught myself and told myself the following: "Look, be glad you're you and not him (i.e., a fair-minded vs. a not fair-minded person)." I also tried to be 'dan l'kaf z'chus,' thinking that perhaps he didn't see my car. It also occured to me that this was very likely a test sent by הקב''ה to see how I would react and how much progress I'd made spiritually. Finally, I just tried to refocus my mind entirely and forget the incident altogether. And, you know what? In a relatively short time the incident was gone from my memory and I was able to go home to my family in a calm and loving mood. כן ירבו !

I'd be interested to hear stories from others about similar situations and the methods you used to overcome anger.